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I Think It’s Gone It’s concerning to me apathy filling up the space where adoration used to be Some days there’s no sense that it ever existed overwhelmed with energy in one instance And in the next one I can’t feel shit When all I’m asking is for you to be consistent It’s got me wondering,

This HBO original series is wonderfully disturbing, but it’s also an amazing story about abuse of power, unequal power dynamics, consent, safety & sanity in a way that has me obsessed with this story. Based on a book, by author JP Delaney, “The Girl Before” has definitely given me a new perspe

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I’m Tired You can lie there and contemplate your next move Sing as loud as you want feeling that groove Walk until you get tired Or imagine a meal you know will be fire But when you get out of that bed and step out into the world it seems like the entire world is a mean girl Or you step in fr

How do you feel when you complain? Do you try not to? I'd like to know why you hold back, if you do. This question arose because, on my 44th birthday, I woke up to find my vehicle had been ransacked! No lie, I barely cared. I shared this fact with a few people, making light of it. I know, it's

I keep finding myself coming back to read the latest amazing blogs, by two amazing individuals. This month’s blog was not added as an exclusive because 1. access to this pertinent information, to what I and so many others are experiencing, on top of life, means more than I can ever say 2. A counse

I'm sitting here watching my daughter smile, and it's bittersweet. I want to smile with/for her, but it's one of those days. I just read the guest blog for tomorrow, and it helped a bit. It reminded me of my darkest times and that this overwhelming disappointment is temporary. This transiti

Happiest birthday weekend to the talented and beautiful member @missleatherbee@gmail.com. I hope this next year is filled with love ❤️ happiness & prosperity in abundance 😘

Some navigate this world without the need, or desire for validation. Usually, I’ve noticed, they have recognized & own their dopeness. Some require it in times of self doubt, and it’s painful when they feel any of their efforts have been overlooked. Then there are those who feel worthless all of the

How was it exploring who you were? Are you still searching for you or the language to describe who you are? More importantly, are you doing it for yourself? It wasn't traumatic for me, looking inward, but it required deep reflection. My sexuality is a bit more complex. Eventually, we will get to w

I genuinely don't want to charge for a subscription to the site, but it has to happen for this site to thrive. If we are going to facilitate conversations around race, identity, allyship versus accomplices, bodywork, young entrepreneurs, etc... We should all want to compensate the guest who'll help

According to a 2009 study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, it takes 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit. The study concluded that, on average, it takes 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic. One of the dearest people in my life set an alarm to show

Affirm and validate people in your space that happily fly outside of the binary. It's a beautiful thing to know yourself. Remember that there is no correct way to be non-binary. Recognize & respect all people, and remember they don't owe you androgyny. One way to affirm others is by asking, and resp

How did I miss this forums/posting feature? Where have I gone for so long but feels like milliseconds?

After a bit of discussion, about this months blog post, I feel compelled to return to the subject. It’s kink month, and I’m not me if I don’t expand on why certain things are important. Terms matter, because you can’t consent to something if you have no idea what it is 1. Aftercare- Aftercare is th

I never thought of words of affirmation as one of my love languages, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say this made me smile. To know someone, from across the country, that I’ve never met, thought enough about my book to write this made me proud. It’s not easy to put my heart on display, but it was

How dedicated are you to healing? I was inadvertently thrown into reckoning with the things that have led me to where I am today, and realized that so much of my hurt coincides with resentment. I began to really enforce boundaries, when I was able to admit that one sentence changed the entire trajec

I keep seeing memes pop up that make me go “hmmm” I won't post any, because that could take all day. What I know about memes is I need to always remember “balance”. Memes, if they were to just be allowed to worm themselves into my psyche, would have me being 1. Unreliable 2. Selfish 3. Narcissisti

I had to post the edited version of the blog. I've been in the position where I couldn't get my repost, and it is haunting to know you did your due diligence, and edited, but the wrong version was printed. I wish I had triple checked. I will next time. #ImSorryMissJackson

Wondering how many of you deal with SAD, or if you know someone who suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder. November’s blog will be all about it, and I'm anxiously awaiting the moment I get to read it. I don't do holidays, and I realize that it has impacted how I function during the holiday seas

Woke up doing life math &, at this rate, if I carry the 1, 🤔 I'll start dating again between the ages of 98 & 99

Joyce Carol Oates struck some nerves on Twitter. She tried to clarify, but the pile on was quick & real. After a lengthy thread, and some valid hurt feelings, I believe she understood how her words harmed others. In my granny’s voice, “if you can’t help don’t hurt”. I’m a fan, and I say we need t

I came here to talk to myself. I was on another site because it's what we do, site hop, and I instantly became overwhelmed. I wondered about how we support one another and all of the reasons we don't / won't. I read post after post about community & family by people who have no idea how to be a p

Scientific Love Thinking of love as a chemical would suggest there's an expectation of balance. It’s hardly ever even, but that is the nature of it. Negative feedback... In biology, it’s called the feedback loop. This loop's job is to maintain a balanced and happy environment. There’s stasis, but

I was so bummed to have missed out on going to Michigan this year, due to unforeseen circumstances. I was more than ready. I may have cried a little. However, one of my favorite people took me to see my first girl crush. I barely sat down the entire concert! Melissa Ethridge made me forget that my l

Having come through depression, it’s just in me to always try not to go there again. It was incredibly difficult to exit that headspace, and I genuinely feel for those who can’t seem to exit. May I never be dismissive, or disappointing, to those struggling with their mental health. I’ve spoken to so

I had to create a profile, to see how this site functions. Creating something with the best intentions seemed like a great idea to me. I have a vision, and I am looking forward to it materializing. Like with the book, it is something that requires forethought, honesty & some patience. Happy Monday,