After a bit of discussion, about this months blog post, I feel compelled to return to the subject. It’s kink month, and I’m not me if I don’t expand on why certain things are important. Terms matter, because you can’t consent to something if you have no idea what it is
Aftercare- Aftercare is the time we spend coming down. Playing is physically taxing and, depending on the type of play one indulges in, it can be psychologically taxing as well. Imagine being left just feeling degraded or whipped, it’s almost cruel. Aftercare is different for most everyone, but spend time kissing those marks you created or rubbing your subs head after pulling their hair. In short, get back to reality
Dom/me- This is written in such a way to distinguish between male & female dominants. However, a lot of studs or masculine presenting people, prefer to be referred to as Doms as well
Brats- Culturally, Black submissives are rarely afforded the luxury of anyone caring about us being whiny or “crybabies” in the real world. This is one of the definitions that differ a little in the kink community. I’m a whole brat, and it’s often debated, especially among other submissives, if a brat should even be considered a submissive, because we can be a bit demanding. However a D/s relation ship is about unequal power dynamics, and the rest is up in the air. if she’s obedient, shes a submissive. Period
Brat-Tamers- This is a person who prides themselves, by using different methods, on taking brats. I don’t know why anyone would want to tame me, as I’m absolutely precious, but it’s a thing
Littles- Submissives that desire to be treated like children. They may refer to their Doms as Mommy or Daddy, appreciate a good cuddle & play with various things that are appealing to children. I usually find this dynamic especially sweet, because it requires a bit more trust to be this vulnerable
Chakra Energy Play- As a Demi sexual, this is my jam. If I’m not feeling you, energetically, I can’t trust you enough to play with you. I call this empath play
Rope Bunny- Someone who likes to be tied up
Rigger- Someone who likes to tie their partners up, usually using specialized rope tying techniques. (Stops to daydream). A rigger knows the different parts of the rope, and how to secure a bight, so that play is fun & safe