Scientific Love
Thinking of love as a chemical would suggest there's an expectation of balance.
It’s hardly ever even, but that is the nature of it. Negative feedback... In biology, it’s called the feedback loop. This loop's job is to maintain a balanced and happy environment. There’s stasis, but only ever briefly lest there’s too little, or too much, of this necessary thing leading things to go awry. What must you do when there’s no stasis? Examine the loop. Is there any feedback? If there’s too little, you slow down. If there’s none, you’ll do what’s best to ensure you have it to feel alive. You medicate the issue, to heal, or you replace it because you need it. Love. If you stop giving, and no one works as hard to maintain it, it’ll indeed cease to exist. Unless you recognize & have come to terms with the truths, it may look different than what you desire but still function as love. Your love might need to change for it to thrive in such an environment. Will you stop giving it when no medicine is unavailable, essentially allowing it to die. If you want to keep it, can you replace what’s missing? If there’s too much, are you overwhelmed? Can you do your part? Are you rejecting it?
Are you giving too much because the loop is broken? You are pressing for even but get nothing. You don’t want it to die because it livens you. Just as lively as when our bodies exchange O2 & cO2. Or as vibrant as when our hormones fluctuate correctly, and we find ourselves wild with emotions. Feeling alive, not just being alive, is very much a part of mental development. Seeking, experiencing & sometimes losing love is part of that. It’s changing, love. Multifaceted and diverse love requires the most work that we’ll do in our lives. Unlike our body's feedback loop, which all takes place inside & passively, you’ve some control over it. The work to maintain the balance is required. You may decide you don’t need love to feel fulfilled. Many have! Opted out of love by refusing to seek or open themselves the possibility of finding it. Some choose to see what life deals them in this proverbial crapshoot. What you don’t have to do is accept someone else’s version of it. You get to love on your terms. ~ASH