Forum Posts

Angel Sims
Apr 14, 2022
In General Discussion
This HBO original series is wonderfully disturbing, but it’s also an amazing story about abuse of power, unequal power dynamics, consent, safety & sanity in a way that has me obsessed with this story. Based on a book, by author JP Delaney, “The Girl Before” has definitely given me a new perspective on this months blog! I may have to do a post about this, because I’m enthralled & inspired. Let me know if you’ve seen it, and how the story is playing out to you~ ASH
HBO’s “The Girl Before” content media
0
0
1
Angel Sims
Apr 04, 2022
In General Discussion
After a bit of discussion, about this months blog post, I feel compelled to return to the subject. It’s kink month, and I’m not me if I don’t expand on why certain things are important. Terms matter, because you can’t consent to something if you have no idea what it is Aftercare- Aftercare is the time we spend coming down. Playing is physically taxing and, depending on the type of play one indulges in, it can be psychologically taxing as well. Imagine being left just feeling degraded or whipped, it’s almost cruel. Aftercare is different for most everyone, but spend time kissing those marks you created or rubbing your subs head after pulling their hair. In short, get back to reality Dom/me- This is written in such a way to distinguish between male & female dominants. However, a lot of studs or masculine presenting people, prefer to be referred to as Doms as well Brats- Culturally, Black submissives are rarely afforded the luxury of anyone caring about us being whiny or “crybabies” in the real world. This is one of the definitions that differ a little in the kink community. I’m a whole brat, and it’s often debated, especially among other submissives, if a brat should even be considered a submissive, because we can be a bit demanding. However a D/s relation ship is about unequal power dynamics, and the rest is up in the air. if she’s obedient, shes a submissive. Period Brat-Tamers- This is a person who prides themselves, by using different methods, on taking brats. I don’t know why anyone would want to tame me, as I’m absolutely precious, but it’s a thing Littles- Submissives that desire to be treated like children. They may refer to their Doms as Mommy or Daddy, appreciate a good cuddle & play with various things that are appealing to children. I usually find this dynamic especially sweet, because it requires a bit more trust to be this vulnerable Chakra Energy Play- As a Demi sexual, this is my jam. If I’m not feeling you, energetically, I can’t trust you enough to play with you. I call this empath play Rope Bunny- Someone who likes to be tied up Rigger- Someone who likes to tie their partners up, usually using specialized rope tying techniques. (Stops to daydream). A rigger knows the different parts of the rope, and how to secure a bight, so that play is fun & safe
0
0
3
Angel Sims
Apr 02, 2022
In General Discussion
Enjoy it!!! 😉
Oh Yeah… Happy Queer Kink Month!!  content media
0
0
1
Angel Sims
Mar 14, 2022
In General Discussion
I never thought of words of affirmation as one of my love languages, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say this made me smile. To know someone, from across the country, that I’ve never met, thought enough about my book to write this made me proud. It’s not easy to put my heart on display, but it was important to do just that as I compiled these poems. I thanked Jen for affirming me. I feel like I can’t win, but this is a win in my eyes. I’ll take it, and I am not ashamed to say I needed it. #BeAffirmedFadeToBlack #ThanksForRemindingMeToHoldMyHeadUp #Affirmations #Getty #IntetnationalWomensMonth #Love #Poetry #Books
Affirmed content media
0
1
10
Angel Sims
Mar 12, 2022
In General Discussion
I Think It’s Gone It’s concerning to me apathy filling up the space where adoration used to be Some days there’s no sense that it ever existed overwhelmed with energy in one instance And in the next one I can’t feel shit When all I’m asking is for you to be consistent It’s got me wondering, what was I thinking I’d become so accustomed to those feelings lingering Basking in them when you’re hours away from me Penning verse after verse of erotic poetry Knowing it meant nothing to you And being ok with that part But not with you seemingly ignoring me disregarding my heart Only I can’t stay angry Shaking my head as you act as if my feelings don’t matter to you Wondering if it was all a ruse Backing away when I’m not sure what to do Still begging to be kissed by you Lust tackling love Protruding legs in the air When I want my body to deny you Yet it still lets you take me there Still palpable when we lose touch Mocking my own tears when I think I am too much Until finally I can’t feel it It’s gone Or changed No more coffee No more lyrics No more pictures for my frames No more giggles when you say my name lost to me Trying to adjust But still holding space To put it simply I was feeling ashamed and constantly trying to save face You didn’t want it and in altering it I took it apart Did I pull back too much Or did I push too hard and overshot my mark To get it back would be up to me What’s coincidental in your eyes Was synchronous to me No coincidences bear such energy It was never about the sex like some might believe The sex was enhanced by the chemistry It’s part of the package titled “enchanted” There’s no switch to turn it on or up It now seems carnal What once seemed tantric Uprooted What I once believed was embedded This ocean of emotions is so deep & alive My spirit can’t possibly tread it Only authentic when it comes from the bottom of the cup Enlightenment no theory can ever touch Maybe I just gave you too much In begging for more than you had to give and telling you what I needed Did I happen to turn you off or possibly leave you depleted Muse like the way you spread these thighs Contradictory I know your third eye is not blind But you appear to look right through me When I stare into your eyes So maybe you just think I’m lying Honestly I’m afraid that I’ll get tired of trying Now when we are so close We can feel worlds apart Needing to keep my eyes off of you While I nurse my confounded heart Only it continues circulating Oxygenating you & Pushing you right back through If we remain on this course only one thing can be true That’s what this poem is about I’m slowly becoming immune now that I’ve figured it out I go back and forth with myself Not sure about what to say I’ll likely tuck these feelings away Never to see the light of day My feelings tend to be your kryptonite I don’t want you to take this the wrong way I’m not trying to push you into loving me Just wanting you to stop being careless with this chemistry ~ ASH
1
0
24
Angel Sims
Feb 27, 2022
In General Discussion
I’m Tired You can lie there and contemplate your next move Sing as loud as you want feeling that groove Walk until you get tired Or imagine a meal you know will be fire But when you get out of that bed and step out into the world it seems like the entire world is a mean girl Or you step in front of the mic for your grand debut Your voice cracks on you You can enter that marathon you’ve walked for everyday And your fucking knee decides it wants to ache You can start that meal and take one turn Before you know it Your bread is burned This is how life happens for me I get up Do the things And Boom Anxiety POW Life takes it’s toll on me The tears well up and I’ve nowhere to go My heart is broken after continually trying with nothing to actually show This isn’t me feeling sorry for myself Or thinking I’m unworthy Nor is it a plea for anyone to fill this empty cup This is something else entirely It’s my confession I’m ready to give up I’m seeking the help I need, and finding ways to work this out. Most of the time, for me, writing helps. So again, this is me trying. Hoping that tomorrow finds me feeling better. Purging isn’t for the lighthearted to do, or witness. Honesty is terrifying when it seems there’s nothing to be done about what is hurting you. If you woke up feeling like you’d rather not be here, I empathize. If you got up despite wanting to stay in bed and cry, I feel you. This in no way means you don’t know your worth, because I’m still worthy. Some days, I just feel as if I can’t catch a fucking break. “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired” wishing everyone wellness; wholeness; & love returned, wholeheartedly ASH https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
It’s OK to be Tired  content media
1
1
13
Angel Sims
Nov 28, 2021
In General Discussion
How do you feel when you complain? Do you try not to? I'd like to know why you hold back, if you do. This question arose because, on my 44th birthday, I woke up to find my vehicle had been ransacked! No lie, I barely cared. I shared this fact with a few people, making light of it. I know, it's horrible & I felt violated. It was just important to note that 1. They didn't break my windows 🤷🏾‍♀️ 2. They didn't steal my bus passes 👍🏽 3. My bullet was still in it's pouch 🙏🏾 For some, especially if I'm not certain where they stand anymore, I didn't even answer the phone or texts. I simply responded “thanks” to “Happy Birthday” texts, and went about my business. Never giving another thought about if them reaching out was intentional, or automatic, because I don't hear from them at all. The break in did put me in a funk, and it wasn't something I shared with everyone. Just like good news, it also matters who I share my bad news with. Everyone just isn't going to celebrate you, so I share with those I know who will. Also, some people wait in the background to delight in your demise and I refuse to put mine on a silver platter. Feast on my back demon, my heart & my hurt is not for your viewing pleasure. Period
Complaints? content media
0
0
7
Angel Sims
Nov 24, 2021
In General Discussion
I keep seeing memes pop up that make me go “hmmm” I won't post any, because that could take all day. What I know about memes is I need to always remember “balance”. Memes, if they were to just be allowed to worm themselves into my psyche, would have me being Unreliable Selfish Narcissistic Self conscious Slick abusive Overcompensating Hateful... These are just some of the ones I can visualize off the top of my head. The worst thing about a lot of them is how quick we share, without any thought of whose brain they'll land. What is your favorite meme? Why? How can it be misused?
With Every “Great” Meme Comes Great Responsibility  content media
1
0
6
Angel Sims
Nov 04, 2021
In General Discussion
I keep finding myself coming back to read the latest amazing blogs, by two amazing individuals. This month’s blog was not added as an exclusive because 1. access to this pertinent information, to what I and so many others are experiencing, on top of life, means more than I can ever say 2. A counselor showing up to say, “I’ve had my bad days too,” is validation like no other. The designs are ready, but but won't be available for a couple of weeks. Covid is real. Wishing healing for all of those affected, even family & friends. So much love, and many thanks for all who've subscribed & shared. Thanks for affirming me 🖤💫
SAD content media
2
0
5
Angel Sims
Nov 02, 2021
In General Discussion
I had to post the edited version of the blog. I've been in the position where I couldn't get my repost, and it is haunting to know you did your due diligence, and edited, but the wrong version was printed. I wish I had triple checked. I will next time. #ImSorryMissJackson
Owning My Mess  content media
0
0
3
Angel Sims
Oct 31, 2021
In General Discussion
I'm sitting here watching my daughter smile, and it's bittersweet. I want to smile with/for her, but it's one of those days. I just read the guest blog for tomorrow, and it helped a bit. It reminded me of my darkest times and that this overwhelming disappointment is temporary. This transition has caused me an unbelievable amount of stress and anxiety. It's funny how far you can go back when you're feeling burdened. As I look again, this little girl is a sign that beautiful things come from challenging situations. However, I'm still allowed to admit that hearing, at the tender age of 12 years old, “Don’t ever bring a woman to my door.” was the statement that changed the trajectory of my future because I was being told not to be myself. I spiraled here and crash-landed on unsteady ground. It'll be fine, but it’ll never stop hurting. Coping, to me, is dealing while healing. One day I'll look back and remember the time trying to better my situation had me in tears & pronounce proudly, “I made it through that.” The November blog on Seasonal Affective Disorder is about a counselor's account of their dark times and how they overcame them. I hope you'll find time to check it out and get something from it as well. We all have our times but, if it's harder for you to step out of them, I hope that you can at least find the energy to reach out because you are also worthy of better days 🖤💫 #worthyofbetterdays 🖤💫 #BeAffirmedFadeToBlack #YourFeelingsAreValid
Woke Up Feeling... content media
0
1
5
Angel Sims
Oct 28, 2021
In General Discussion
Wondering how many of you deal with SAD, or if you know someone who suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder. November’s blog will be all about it, and I'm anxiously awaiting the moment I get to read it. I don't do holidays, and I realize that it has impacted how I function during the holiday season. The greed, cold, malevolence & disrespect towards other faiths get under my skin. Also, losing my son right before Thanksgiving & my birthday, and my mother right before Christmas makes me dislike the season even more. I usually cry quite a bit during the last few months of the year, but there's always some gratitude for the family & friends I still have. Subscribe to the blog at HTTP://affirmationdestination.boutique to read more on SAD in November’s blog post #BeGentleWithYourself #yourfeelingsarevalid #BeAffirmedFadeToBlack Don't forget to love & allow yourself to be loved in return 🖤💫 Love, ASH
Seasonal Affective Disorder content media
1
0
5
Angel Sims
Oct 24, 2021
In General Discussion
Happiest birthday weekend to the talented and beautiful member @missleatherbee@gmail.com. I hope this next year is filled with love ❤️ happiness & prosperity in abundance 😘
Birthday Shout Out content media
0
0
1
Angel Sims
Oct 24, 2021
In General Discussion
Woke up doing life math &, at this rate, if I carry the 1, 🤔 I'll start dating again between the ages of 98 & 99
Dating As A Single Mom content media
0
0
4
Angel Sims
Oct 10, 2021
In General Discussion
Happy Sunday 🖤💫 content media
1
1
6
Angel Sims
Oct 07, 2021
In General Discussion
Joyce Carol Oates struck some nerves on Twitter. She tried to clarify, but the pile on was quick & real. After a lengthy thread, and some valid hurt feelings, I believe she understood how her words harmed others. In my granny’s voice, “if you can’t help don’t hurt”. I’m a fan, and I say we need to make room for forgiveness sometimes, especially when people allow themselves to be held accountable. One of my favorite websites wrote about it here: https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2021/10/author-joyce-carol-oates-issues-sincere-apology-tweet-pronouns-stirs-controversy/
Sometimes We pile On So Fast content media
1
0
4
Angel Sims
Oct 07, 2021
In General Discussion
I came here to talk to myself. I was on another site because it's what we do, site hop, and I instantly became overwhelmed. I wondered about how we support one another and all of the reasons we don't / won't. I read post after post about community & family by people who have no idea how to be a part of either. People who'll encourage me in the comments because it looks good. People who'll unashamedly inbox me about their next thing but have never clicked on this site. Multiple folks attempted to sell me lashes, wears, books, clothes and inviting me to contribute to fundraisers. I want to, but my mind says, instead, “set the alarm for Diane’s online retreat”; “get Blue something for her birthday, no matter how long it takes”; “post on your site”; “promote those who took the time to promote you,” and the list goes on. Tears flowed without me being able to or even caring to stop them. There's nothing crazy about expecting those you show up for to do the same for you. I'm not sad, just mindful of how this goes and remembering that I'm fortunate. I'm also worthy of better things. Thanks for being a part of my vision, members. Take the time to read Karen’s blog and support & encourage because that's what community is about. This site is built for community, after all.
It's Ok To Expect Reciprocity content media
0
1
7
Angel Sims
Sep 25, 2021
In General Discussion
How was it exploring who you were? Are you still searching for you or the language to describe who you are? More importantly, are you doing it for yourself? It wasn't traumatic for me, looking inward, but it required deep reflection. My sexuality is a bit more complex. Eventually, we will get to what it meant to me to come out as demisexual and how it meant admitting that I am also pan . This self-exploration made me completely honest about qualities that I am attracted to and realizing that physical attraction meant very little in the grand scheme of things. We will discuss how baffling it is when people don't understand how attraction works, how much of an influence it had on my identity. All of this will be in due time. Right now, I am waiting with bated breath for the blog on gender/trans fluidity to drop. The anticipation is giving me good feels... I am looking forward to more people signing up to learn and be affirmed by a beautiful lineup of facilitators & educators.
Knowing & honoring myself content media
1
0
2
Angel Sims
Sep 15, 2021
In General Discussion
I genuinely don't want to charge for a subscription to the site, but it has to happen for this site to thrive. If we are going to facilitate conversations around race, identity, allyship versus accomplices, bodywork, young entrepreneurs, etc... We should all want to compensate the guest who'll help us navigate these things and continue these conversations in our homes, workplace, community spaces & even online. I hope you'll stay, engage & listen so we can all make this world a better place! #payforyourfood
With A Heavy Heart content media
1
0
9
Angel Sims
Aug 28, 2021
In General Discussion
Some navigate this world without the need, or desire for validation. Usually, I’ve noticed, they have recognized & own their dopeness. Some require it in times of self doubt, and it’s painful when they feel any of their efforts have been overlooked. Then there are those who feel worthless all of the time, and it takes time to help them understand that none of us are worthless. Which are you?
0
2
11

Angel Sims

Admin
More actions